挺着大肚子，如航空母舰般，我回来了！

上一次写东西是十一月二十二日，当我确定知道眉豆的存在的时候，距离如今已有好几个月了。这期间不是没时间，就是不舒服，要不就是懒，连网都几乎没有上。我想是懒得成分比较多。今天天气特好，出去了两回，好像有点劲回来这光顾一下了。

 

今天是怀孕22周5天，悠悠漫长的40周怀孕期，过了一半有多了。这次与上次有花生相比，大大的不同，无论是身体感受，还是精神状况，都有很大的区别。第一次终归是第一次，也因为如此第一个小孩子永远是最特殊的。虽然如今挺着个大肚子，但照顾花生丝毫没有减少。所幸的是花生大了，容易沟通了，和花生他爹终于不用上夜班了。日子好像过得正常多了。

 

另外一件值得高兴的事是，上周末得知另外的两个朋友也怀孕了，她们各有一个小男孩，一个比花生小半个月，另外一个小两个月。如今这三个小男孩的妈妈都相继怀孕了，而且预产期都接近。真是高兴。周末的饮茶聚会变成是BB和孕妇的聚会，哈哈。好了这次写到这，花生醒了，要工作了。

 

无题

今天是十一月二十二日，心里很想写点东西，但又不知写些什么，记一下流水帐吧。温哥华一直在不停地下雨，几乎把所有的树叶都打下来了，今天是少有的好天气，竟然有太阳，也挺暖和的。天气好，也没有去公园，一早就带着花生去Costco。才开店不到半小时，那里已经人山人海了，人人都忙于买礼物和圣诞饰品。虽说现在经济不好，到处都传危机，但好像人们的购买欲还挺强的。

 

麦晓鹏工作的London Drugs在本月的18号正式新铺开张。每天他回来，就听他说新铺如何的大，新旧铺的连接如何地乱（管理问题），还有就是新铺的开张如何地热闹，一天下来的营业额就超过15万。说得我也在前几天和爸爸还有花生跑到那新铺八卦。果然很大，一个伦敦药房也弄得象一department store。花生在那到处逛，看到瓶瓶罐罐，就要往上堆，我要一边捉着他，一边说别给你爹惹祸。花生他爹因为工作累，我就因为花生上学累。

 

花生上学不到两个星期，就惹了病，晚上不断咳嗽，还流鼻涕，被逼在家呆了两天休学。看医生，也没说什么，就是病菌感染，自己会好。到现在过了一个星期了，他也好得差不多了，今天在Costco精神着呢，看到试吃点就冲过去，嚷嚷着吃这些，吃这些。

 

还有就是他上学不到一个月，就被老师告了两次状：说他和别人不好好说话，非要用手来拍人，还有一次就是拿糨糊棒涂到其他小朋友的头发上。哎呀，花生在未上学前，我也知道花生是个闯祸的学生，也知道我日后经常会被老师叫去反映情况，但就没有预料到会这么早！儿子，我也没话可说了，对你的教育继续，但你妈也要学会厚着脸皮听老师训导，你做学生的日子还长着呢。OMG！

 

还有一个星期就过完十一月了，这个月过得真累，琐琐碎碎的事多，心里牵挂的事也多，就像十一月的雨，滴滴答答地总没完。

谢谢你陪伴我走过十七个春夏秋冬

题目的“你”是我家的小麦，与他认识了十八年，酸甜苦辣了十七年，结了婚八年零六个月。上个星期一是我生日，本来生日的时候，应该是感谢父母的养育之恩的时候，但当我想到这年的生日标志着我半辈子在中国、半辈子在加拿大的时候，我就很自然地想到了麦晓鹏。回顾过去种种，无论是甜的还是苦的，无论是谁的错还是谁的对，我很想说声谢谢。

 

当两人不在一起的时候，谢谢他心里的那一份牵挂与思念。当他刚移民来加时，谢谢他能适应不顺意的环境。那时刚好是高科技泡沫的破裂，找相关的工作难，连读书也要排两年的。谢谢他能过了心里的那一关，愿意在大统华和雪糕店工作，谢谢他能笑对每一天。后来终于等到读书了，但妈妈病了。谢谢他对我父母的照顾，对这个家的付出，对我的安慰和支持。他每天放学就在家做饭，把饭和菜仔细装好，然后开车送饭到医院给爸爸妈妈（爸爸一般是从下午四点陪伴妈妈到晚上十点多才走），等我照顾好妈妈后，就和我一起回家吃饭，一般已是晚上九点了，弄好一切后他才做作业。这医院，妈妈住了四个月。书读完了，但找工作还是不如意。谢谢他能有退一步海阔天空的心态。他在London Drug工作，到现在已有三年多了。他的心态比我放得还宽，没有介意自己干的是劳力工，他自己写blogs，笑谈工作的趣事。加拿大的生活对他来说并不容易，找工作、我妈妈的生病，犹如千斤锤压下来，但我们都走了过来，有欢笑、有眼泪、有生气、有emotional meltdown、也有狂喜。现在有了花生，是生活的焦点，但最爱的人还是这个认识了十八年的人。

 

在９９年以前我们是95%的时间都被太平洋给分隔开。这么多年来，目睹了通讯的发展，也认可了邮递的可靠性。在９７年以前，靠的是写信，电话几乎没有，贵呀。记得在９４年的时候是我打给他的第一个长途，那是加币两块半左右一分钟，现在五块钱，可以打几百分钟。他读大学时，在广州和北京两地跑；我在这边搬过一次家。我们的来信从来没有丢失过，也没有错开过。邮票再怎么漂亮（有荧光的，有小型张的），信也完好地送到他家；即使在欧洲，我每到一个国家就寄一名信片，也安全到达。我们对两地的邮递服务赞叹不已。９７年后就有email了，后来很快就有messenger，方便快捷多了，但还是觉得写信多一点诗情画意。

 

最后要谢谢的是他对我购买欲的忠心捧场。花了过百元买回来的Lord of the Rings，他看了无数遍；寻寻觅觅才买回来的Band of Brothers，他也看了起码五遍；对于最近我每去一次Costco就摸一遍，后来终于横下心买下来的Rome，他睡觉也不睡，到目前为止，已看了两遍。我是杯迷，家里杯子特多，使用这些杯子最多的人就是我家小麦。还谢谢他听我对前公司的种种不是的发牢骚，风水师的无能和无眼，当然还有２的白痴，和MC的高级打太极手法等等。

 

只要信缘，自然圆缘。我们还有很多个春夏秋冬要走，手牵着手一直到老。

The 5th cycle - back to Dr. Li

Everything seems to flow smoothly.  The RevAid program has registered mom, meanting that mom can get Revlimid free.  The Project with Dr. Song has finished, and mom was transferred back to Dr. Li who had been taking care of mom since the diagnosis in April 2004.  Although mom has her ups and downs, she's doing OK overall.

 

Dr. Li is a complicated person.  It's hard to describe him.  He's a Chinese, speaking Catonese, and he's the only Chinese doctor in the hemotology area in Greater Vancouver.  It's lucky that mom was referred to him at the very beginning as no languge barrier is a bless for my parents.  On April 27, 2004, he told my parents, in Cantonese, without any holding back, without any hesitation, that mom has a blood cancer and that she was in the advanced stage.  At that very moment, dad was the only person accompanying mom in the hospital.  And I was told by dad when I met him outside the hospital after work.  April 27, 2004, a date carved in my heart forever.

 

Since then, mom has been seeing Dr. Li until about 4 months ago when mom joined the Revlimid Project.  Maybe Dr. Li wants to play fair to all of his patients (no special treatment to Chinese).  Sometimes he is very rough to deal with.  The worst experience with him is that he totally ignored dad and mom when encountering him in the hospital hall way.  But sometimes he would suddenly ring the phone and talk to dad that he had been paying extra attention to mom's case.  As I always tell my parents, he's a mixed up person, and there is something special (I won't say wrong) about his brain.  Otherwise, he wouldn't be the only Chinese hemotologist in Vancouver.

 

Well, mom will see him at the end of this month.  The good news for me is I don't need to go and do the interpretation.  They can speak whatever they want!  That's the good thing about Dr. Li.

花生第一天上学 - 后记

心中还是放不下星期一发生的事情，觉得实在太委屈了。于是昨晚再次翻看学校派发的手册，引发了以下的一封email，给学校的：

 

Hi XXXX,

I'm Charles' mom, Yolanda. I would like to bring your attention to a clause in the Parent's Manual under "Food/Snacks". Before Charles' first day on November 3, I read through this manual to make sure I would do everyting right. Under Food/Snacks, it states that "XXXXX Preschool will provide one nutritious snack per session." My understanding of this is that I don't need to prepare any snack for Charles to bring to school as the school will provide such.

But on this Monday, when I brought Charles to school, I was told that I should prepare the snack, and I was very surprised. I didn't argue at the time and promised that I would bring snack on the next day. So on Charles' first day at school, during the snack time, he had nothing to eat but watched other children enjoying their own snacks. I could tell from his expression when picking him up that he was upset by this small incident.

I'm not sure if the school has changed the policy or if I have the wrong understanding of this particular sentence. And please note that I'm not here to ask for a free snack. Although this is a small incident, it did upset Charles and us. It was an unhappy experience. You may consider to amend that particular sentence to avoid future confusion.

Lastly, I want you to know that other than this small incident, Charles has been enjoying the school although he may be the youngest among the children. I can tell his happiness from his sudden yelling of "Oh yeah!" (learned obviously at school) and rolling up the sleeves before washing hands (never did that before). I sincerely thank the teachers for their patience and effort.

Thanks for your time.

Yolanda

 

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看来我是没有选错学校，有关人事很快就回复了我的email:

 

Dear Yolanda

 

Please let me appologize for the mix up regarding snacks! I am so sorry! For snacks, we will purchase fresh vegetables and fruits daily from T n T market, and baked goods and bottled water from Costco. However, many parents in the school prefer their children to eat (for example) organic food or their own ethnic foods resulting in the parents sending a snack along with their child. The majority of our parents do this, so this it was hindsight on our part and I am so very sorry.

 

Thank you for bringing this to my attention, I have already spoken with the teachers about this.

 

We are delighted to hear that Charles is enjoying his experience here!! ...

 

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家长和学生便是学校的客户或顾客（这是21世纪的理论，我之前从工作经历中学的），如此的售后服务，算是合格了。希望花生在学校玩得开开心心，我们做家长的给学费也给得心甘情愿的。